Personal Opinion - Obedient Wives Club

I still do not and will never understand or agree with the 'Obedient Wives Club'.

No one can go against it, because it's based on religion. But the name of the club pisses me off, I mean... Come on! 'Obedient Wives'?? Really?? How about 'Female Self-Empowerment Club' or something less similar to referring to wives as trained dogs. Definition of the word 'obedient':

"Complying or willing to comply with orders or requests; submissive to another's will - Google"

In international news, it was mentioned that the 'Obedient Wives Club' angers Women's Rights Group. Well, doesn't it. Referring to women as objects and the traditional thinking of women serving their husbands. View and refer to the photo below to read what the Joint Action Group for Gender Equality (JAG), which includes the Women's Aid Organisation, Sisters in Islam and Women's Centre for Change, have to say about this. They have my full respect!

The fact that the main reason of this 'club' is to reduce the amount of failed marriages, i believe that it is not right. When a marriage fails, both parties are at fault. So why put the blame on women? Create an 'Obedient Husbands Club' and it will be reported as discrimination and will be protested by men. Now we have the men of these members, feeling happy and hopeful that their wives would acquire amazing skills for activities in the bedroom.

"Perak mufti, Tan Sri Harussani Zakaria, has given his backing to the Obedient Wives Club, which offers “sex lessons” to help women keep their husbands." - The Star Online

Of course he does! He's going to receive better sex (or he thinks he is)! Why wouldn't he agree?

Talk about conservative, I thought our country has always emphasized the fact that we are a Muslim country. And now, we have the this joke of a club teaching women to be (I quote the vice-president of the club, Dr. Rohaya Mohamed) "better than a first-class prostitute". After her words went viral in the media, it has been savaged and subjected to ridicule, she covers up with, "I believe we have been misunderstood and misinterpreted. When we said that husbands should treat their wives like first-class prostitutes, we were not putting wives on the same level with prostitutes. We are talking about first-class elite types, not street hooker types". No matter the types of escort or prostitute she compares, 'street hookers' or 'first-class elite types', it still means 'prostitute'!

I agree with the Johor Islamic Council advisor, Datuk Nooh Gadut, who said "The use of the term 'first-class prostitute' was extreme, adding that marriages in Islam should not be just for sex but for, among others, love." - The Star Online

I am very curious about what their meetings or classes consist of. It had me thinking, teaching modern wives how to please their men in the bedroom, how would they possibly conduct the classes? Then the coordinator of the 'Obedient Wives Club', Fauziah Arrifin, when questioned on what these classes consist of, stated that the club will not be giving out practical sex lessons as it is illegal. In an earlier interview, Dr. Rohaya Mohamed mentioned that the club would provide bedroom lessons to the Obedient Wives Club's 1,000 members. This statement of hers received a comment from Fauziah Arrifin explaining that their lessons will consist of motivational talks and discussions among the members. The talks will be conducted by her, Dr Rohaya Mohamed, and eight other committee members. So in layman terms, it means it will be a theory lesson. What happened to practice makes perfect? Yes, I maybe contradicting, but I feel that if you are going to teach these wives to be 'better than first-class prostitutes', teach them right! Imagine what those theory lessons would be like. *A meeting room. Members seated on one side of the room. Speakers standing on the other side, in front of a projector. An image of male genitalia projected onto a white screen background.* Oh, come on!! It doesn't work that way! To make the speakers jobs easier, they should just project scenes from pornography films.

Selangor Abim Chief, a Muslim NGO leader says that the setting-up of the 'Obedient Wives Club' is not necessary for education on how to make husbands happy can be conveyed personally. - Malaysia Kini Online

This is sexual discrimination. Very one sided argument to blame women for failed marriages. Do you agree? What are your views on this 'club'? And to the men, how would you feel if a 'Obedient Husbands Club' is created to teach you to be submissive and obedient to comply to your wives orders and requests?

Why she's my best friend

Funniest thing happened today. My best friend, Dhaima, and I had a business training today. As usual, she's always late :p So we attended training till about 12.30pm then I told her that I'll drive us both back to the office as she did not drive today. We got into the car and just as we were pulling out of the parking, something fell and she started screaming and panicking. For a moment there, I thought she encountered a rat, my deepest phobia. So not knowing what was going on, I screamed too. I pulled the car over to the side, and both of us swing the doors open and just jumped out. After 20 secs we thought we were silly and decided to check what it was. We found out why she screamed, and felt absolutely pathetic over it. It seems that my car air conditioning pipes were leaking and a few drops of extremely cold water landed on her feet. We then just laughed and felt stupid. On another note, we were heading back to the office and talking about lunch in the car. I brought whole wheat tortillas so we were planning on what topping to buy. She suddenly mentioned, "Yea! Chula tina would taste amazing on those!". I looked at her and laugh, "What the hell is a chula tina?". She was trying to say chilli tuna. God we broke down in tears. I guess the whole drama of a rat falling onto her still has her all shaken up. Funny-ness :D

Anyway, after work, we'll be catching the movie Kung Fu Panda 2 together. We got free movie screening tickets from some clients from work. Can't wait! It's already Thursday, this week has gone by waaaaay too fast. I kept thinking it was still Wednesday... My bad. Oh well, back to work and back to chatting with this guy friend of mine. Someone I met when I was socializing in the cafe a month ago. Went on a biking trip with him last week, and it was the best EVER! Rode up to Genting for lunch. Chilled out there. Amazing weather there. Me loves the cold! Looking forward to our next biking trip! Either that or looking forward to riding my bike! Still have no idea on which one to get though. Hmmm.... dilemma.

A Whole New World...

Yes, I've done it again. Abandoned my blog in the longest time ever. Well, I guess it's time to give a little update on my lil life. My blog is just somewhere I rant about my life and what's going on. After leaving it for almost a year, a whole lot has happened. Everything in my life changed. I've been super busy with my job as a media planner, which is awesome. Plus the new things in my life? New people, new cafe, new perspective, new goals, new determination, and soon..... a new bike of my very own :D

Will explain everything step by step. Let's start from the beginning of 2011. A whole new year, a whole new beginning. Met so many new people! One of those people used to be someone important in my life, until I realized that no matter how much I try to help him in his life, all he does is talk. Talk about his problems, talk about his goals, and that's where it ends. It never goes a step further than talking. No action and that annoys the hell outta me. So one day I woke up and told myself enough is enough and now I'm a whole new person! No matter what I've gone through, the past is the past. I have him to thank for my current life. He was a entry card for me to expand my network and further my interest in motorsports. After awhile it was all me, as we know I socialize really well with practically anyone. So the rest of the life I'm living now, kicked off from there.


It all started with a cafe. Not just a plain cafe but the first motorsport-themed cafe in South East Asia! I've put alot of time and 'heartwork' into Super GP Caffee (SGPC). So far I'm the events director for the cafe and we've had so many events there. SGPC is doing really well and I love socializing there. It's always my hangout place after work or a place to meet up with friends. Super GP Caffee has a really nice ambiance, dim lights, plush couches, pool table... everywhere you look there's always something interesting, even the washrooms! The food is really great and cheapest alcohol in Subang. Awesome cocktails!! So the latest event we're helping out with is the Super GT International Series Malaysia. So far we've done the Super GT Malaysia Queen Search 2011 for that. Looking forward to more events. This cafe led to a lot of advances in my life.
For more information on Super GP Caffee, visit: http://www.supergpcaffee.com/


I have been riding as a passenger with some friends and a biking group. We've been on biking trips just to enjoy and pass time. Conclusion?? I absolutely LOVE biking! I love biking so much that I'm going to be getting a bike of my very own. The dilemma?? I have 2 bikes which I've been introduced to and no idea which one to go for. Planning to get a 2nd hand one first as a first bike. The 2 bikes I've been debating against is the Honda CBR 600rr and the Suzuki GSX-R600.
I want my bike to be in my favourite colour, RED! :D


Planning to get biking gear to fit the colours of the bike. Anyway the Honda is around 187kg and has 105 bhp. The Suzuki, on the other hand, is around 192kg and 110bhp. So here I am, confused and torn between these 2 bikes. I'm 163cm tall and 58kg in weight. Help me figure this out?? Would really appreciate it :D

For now my blog entry will stop here. Look forward to more updates or the continuation of the story to my 'whole new world'. Lurve yah!

Around the corner...

Yes! Here it is. Halloween is just around the corner! Or another name for it, Samhain. Samhain is an annual Celtic celebration also known as the "festival of the dead". It is a celebration to celebrate the circle of life, celebrate the elements of life and death, celebrate the beginning and ending of a year. It is believed that the border between this world and the other world become thin on Samhain.

For this years Halloween celebration, I initially planned to go crazy! Dress up as a sexy vampire and go club hopping! First club Zouk KL then a few clubs next. Already had a group of friends willing to go crazy with me and enjoy the night of Halloween. But after a week of consideration, I suddenly felt like I do not want to go through the trouble. Maybe it's because I've been having fever these few days so it made me feel old and lazy. Instead, I remember that my little sister's birthday was coming and she's always wanted a costume party. So currently, Leo and I are planning a Halloween birthday for my little sis!! All her friends will be dressed up in cute little costumes and we'll be decorating the house. We want to make it as scary as possible for Shenz and her friends Ahhh... for all the time, money and trouble we go through for her party, I hope she enjoys it. Plus, one of her best friends are baking a special secret Halloween birthday cake for her. Hmmm... I wonder what it'll be?

Au Pair

Yes, I have done it! I signed up with a program which makes me an Au Pair. What is an Au Pair you ask? An Au Pair is defined as a foreign-national domestic assistant working for, and living as part of, a host family. Typically, Au Pairs take on a share of the family's responsibility for childcare as well as some housework, and receive a small monetary allowance for personal use. This is what they call work and travel. When you register, they ask you a load of questions about childcare. I thought it was suitable for me, as I absolutely love children at the age of 1 to 5 years old and I love to travel. Working as an Au Pair allows me to travel, take children under my care AND earn money! I registered USA, UK, Italy, France, and Japan as my preferred country to work in. They allow you to choose the age of the children you would like to care for and for how long you will be in service to the family. I chose from 2 months to 9 months. Being an Au Pair, the family that hosts you does not treat you like a servant or maid. Instead they treat you like apart of their family. Just that you have to take care of their child.

I just register 2 nights ago and I have already received offers from families which live in Los Angeles, Miami, New York, and Orlando. And that's just from the USA. I have received offers from UK and Italy as well. This is actually going really smoothly as I planned. I'm extremely excited to live with a family in a foreign country. It will expand my knowledge of lifestyles and cultures. The only problem for me is that I'll have to leave my Leo here for a huge amount of time. I'll miss him like crazy. He'll be in my mind all day, everyday. Not just him. I'll miss my family too!! Especially my adorable little sister, Shenz. She makes me smile every single day. One day without her would be torture. Well, I'll just have to make sacrifices to grab onto opportunities. There will never be success without sacrifice. I'm just worried about my future with Leo. I wonder what would happen. I guess we'll see how everything goes. See how fate brings me into the future and how strong our relationship is. I can see a very bright future for Leo and I, but I'm still afraid. I mean... who isn't?!?!

Back to Au Pair families. When Au Pairs stay and care for a family, the family gives the Au Pair an allowance. So far, I've been offered around 1,500 sterling pounds a month. That's like RM7,200 a month!! Doing what I love and getting an allowance as a bonus. I know from the start I would love this job. Getting paid for doing what you love, now THAT'S what I call a job. At least, I would wake up everyday and start work with a huge smile on my face.

Au Pair's are usually aged between 18 and 25 years old. So if you're interested, visit: Easy Au Pair at http://www.easyaupair.com/

Workout in disguise

Tonight we had it all planned. Leo and I were going out for a nice, peaceful and casual dinner. Had a great time eating. We chatted a whole lot mostly, asking each other about their day and wondering how was work. As our table was facing this huge flat screen TV mounted on the restaurant's wall, most of the time we were watching this program called "Riot Chase" or something like that. So while we ate, we watched numerous videos of people starting riots all over the world. Some of it were pretty violent and so not right for dinner time. I do not want to see a woman in a female jail get beaten up by 50 other women when I'm eating. Would you call that appetizing?

So anyway, after the extremely peaceful dinner, we made our way back. Just around 500 more meters to Leo's house, his car broke down. We tried to figure what happened as the car suddenly over heated and we couldn't start it. So I thought, "Hey! It's so near your place. Let's push!". So we started pushing with high spirits and with me controlling the wheel. After half of our journey, we collapsed. Two people with no constant exercise pushing a Honda 500 meters. Now it seemed pretty ridiculous. So in the end, a black car stopped and a malay guy got out of the car and helped us push. His wife and little daughter in the car were giving us encouragement. We did it! All 500 meters of it. I think it was a workout in disguise or maybe just someone, somewhere hinting that we have to work out more. It seems that the family that helped us were staying very near by and were on the way home when they saw us in trouble.

**For now, note to self: remember to buy gift basket for family who helped us push car!!

Thank you helpful citizens of Malaysia. Now looking back, an extremely ray of hope for the possibility of 1Malaysia!

A peek of happiness

Haven't been home for awhile as I've been crazy with work. When I got home a few days ago, I saw this innocent brown envelope with the plastic-covered Pos Laju thingy on it. Like a natural online shopper, I went crazy. Remember the blog shop I mentioned in my past post? The one about MiniBites? Well my item has arrived. I opened the package with care and I was faced with more wrappers. Until I reached bubble wrap! Beneath it was the most adorable thing I have ever seen in my life! As you know, I absolutely love miniature food items. A week ago I ordered a Chocolate Pie Ring. I wore it to Leo's cousin's birthday and I got a huge response. I was the belle of the ball. Everyone was trying to get a glimpse of that pie on my ring. Naturally I embraced being in the spot light.

The genius behind all the handmade crafts is a girl named Esther. We're planning to meet up to get to know each other better. I've been dying to meet her. By the way, she updated her blog shop with a whole new product. Adorable heart-shaped waffle ear studs! There are 3 types which are:-

~Strawberry Yoghurt Waffle Studs, which are heart-shaped waffles covered in vanilla yoghurt and topped with a slice of strawberry.

~Berry Smoothie Waffle Studs, which are heart-shaped waffles covered in vanilla yoghurt and topped with a cherry and 3 blueberries.

~Maple Story Waffle Studs, which are heart-shaped waffles covered in the basic maple syrup and topped with a pat of butter.

These waffles are the most adorable items and they look good enough to eat! So I made a custom order of a waffles ring. My waffles ring would be a basic square waffle covered in maple syrup and topped with a pat of butter and 2 slices of strawberry. Now that I can't wait to get. I'd be hungry all day looking at the rings on my fingers *giggles* When I got my Chocolate Pie ring, I took a few photos to send to her to show my appreciation for her hard work and creativity. So here are the pictures of me and the delectable ring!

The finer things in life

Honestly... It's been ages. I don't understand how all the other bloggers or my friends fill they're blogs up everyday. I do respect them for that though. I simply enjoy reading about their lifes and mostly I love shopping online. I'm so busy nowadays with life that I have no time to blog anymore. I think me, myself and I, would agree to write in this blog once in awhile. Just for the sake of releasing stress. I heard it's good for the soul.

Currently, Leo's in China on business. He's so busy with visits to clients and reports that everytime we Skype we talk a little and after awhile he has to get back to his reports. Although, I have to admit that this makes us appreciate each other more. I appreciate every single time I get to see him online. Unfortunately for him, it isn't really a holiday as he has to visit clients from 8am till 12am midnight. Right now on the opposite side of the internet, I see him look so tired and he's like that close to falling asleep. He's been gone for 10 days already. 2 more days and he'll be back. I honestly miss him so much. I hope he gets lotsa prezzies for me from China though... He better!! *sniggers*

On another note, as I was just surfing the web, I found the most amazing blog shop EVER!! Since forever, I've been in love with miniatures. Miniature food stuff especially. I've adored those people doing tutorials on YouTube. For me it would be quite difficult for me as it requires the right materials and steady hands. And those are exactly my problems. I do not have any idea to find polymer clay (plus it's very expensive), and I have thyroid, which is a condition I had since 2005. My active thyroid makes me weak, breathless, weakens my muscles, and it makes my hands shiver and shake. Exactly what I don't need to make those adorable miniature things. I love mini waffles, donuts, cake slices, pies... Everything! So I found this blog shop which is heaven for me called MiniBites. The owner of this blog, Esther, does everything handmade! I'd have to say she's extremely talented. I've ordered a few of the most adorable items she has on sale. What I would like now, would be a charm bracelet full of her amazing creations. I would recommend anyone to check it out! The next time you see me, I'll be wearing one of those mini food that you would die to take a bite from.



What I'm trying to do now is advance in life. I have agreed to myself that I will not settle for one job until I truely love it. So for now I have been through 5 extremely different jobs which have no connection to each other. My goal? To experience all kinds of jobs the world has to offer. Or more specifically, ALL experience jobs which interest me! And I don't mean things like janitor... or garbage woman... You understand. So the next job I'm aiming for and will get it is to be a flight attendant. It doesn't matter what company. As long as I get to experience it. Plus I always score every interview I go to. So wish me luck!!

New Job

Been such a long while since I've let it all out into this blog. Right now I'm sitting at my desk in my new office. What do we do? We're are an event company with other businesses on the side. We do events as well as organize samplings at various shopping malls for many different well known brands. As a newbie (been working for a month), it's been pretty confusing and hectic for me. Which means I gotta learn and pick up stuff real fast. One thing: thank god my boss is not from hell or an assistant of Hades. she's really nice and we have a lot in common. I understand her more than anyone else because I talk like her. She's absolutely hard working and always striving to be the best. The thing is that she's constantly busy and works 7 days a week. She needs a vacation. This company is built on all her hard work. So far I've witnessed 2 of her events and I think they're amazing. It's very nice to be able to see all your hard work paid off when the event is a success.

Anyway, the only thing I'm not a fan of in my job, are the sampling. What we have to do is compile up a long job list and then start calling tons and tons of people and ask if they're interested to work. Thank god I do not have to do it that much. I just type up random sales reports. So that is fine with me. The only problem is that sometimes I get a little bit confuse and mix stuff up. And another problem? I have the worst memory ever. So I have to carry a tiny notebook around writing everything I need to do. Sometimes the job get so crazy that I just go home, take a warm bath n go straight to sleep. I don't even remember the last time I watched TV!!!

Another I enjoy at the office is dressing up my cubicle. The office is all decked in red and white, just like our corporate logo. so went to IKEA to buy a few red stuff to put on my white table. Got a cork board, a red pillow for my chair, and a red and white pot with a pretty plant in it. In my desk drawer I have 2 boxes of Quakers Chewy Cookies & Cream granola bars and Chunky Chocolate granola bars. They taste amazing and with all my work they keep me full and happy. I'm happy with where I am now. I just have to keep improving myself so i can do perform better and get better results. My colleagues are absolutely fun people. Very eccentric and crazy. Except on guy, who's leaving. When I first joined he had this thing for me. When I say 'thing' I don't mean a crush. He hated my guts. Jealous that my boss treats me better. Oh well... office politics. I'm better off with out it.

Anyway back to work. Lots to do. Hope to write in more often.

XOXO

Pool or pool?

He leaned forward. His body against and above the pool table. He closes an eye as he aims his pool cue towards the white ball. There I was right opposite of him. All the way across the pool table. I was just standing there watching him, hoping he'll score. And then suddenly he raised his head slightly and I thought he wanted a better look. But he raised his head, looked at me with those adorable eyes and... wink! My heart melted so much I could just faint on the ground smiling *laughs* All my inside were warm and fuzzy. Best ever!

i love you, Leo! *muaks*